Mother of the groom doesn’t like his fiancée, so she doesn’t want to invite her to her 70th birthday trip, as she alleges she doesn’t know her enough: ‘My wife isn't invited, so I've essentially said I won't go, as I feel she should have been invited’

Your chosen family is more important than the one you were born into.When you get married, you are choosing who to spend your life with, who you want forming part of your family, the family that you are forming for yourself. The person that you are marrying has to be the most loved by you and the most important in your life, after yourself. If you ever have kids, they will occupy those spaces, but until then, your husband or wife is the center of your family, your chosen family. They come before everyone else: friends, parents, siblings. If you aren't going to give this person the place they deserve, then why get married in the first place? Marriage is making somebody else your family. Choose wisely.When I read stories like the one below, I feel incredibly sad for the person who married into a family where the in-laws hate them. It's so solitary. And if your partner isn't standing up for you, then that is the biggest red flag. Someone chose to marry you, with everything that it implies. Only to then defend their parents over you? No way. I like that in this case, the husband was defending his wife against the mistreatment that she was getting by not being invited to her mother-in-…

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