Woman Wonders What Goes on Inside the Mind of Their Friend Who Always Cancels Plans at the Last Minute: ‘If I didn’t know better I’d say she’s trying to get rid of me as a friend, but she still mails me a birthday and Christmas present every year’

'It's me, hi, I'm the problem, It's me': I'm the type of person who never confirms plans, and I can tell you what goes on in my mindI don't intend this to be a defense of flaky friends; I just want to explain what is possibly going on in the mind of someone who's flaky, ok?I just wanna start by saying I wanna see you, just not necessarily on Saturday, ok? The plans I agreed to on Tuesday might not feel appealing on Saturday, and I rely heavily on my mood. Sometimes I don't want to go out; sometimes I'm exhausted and want to stay home in my jammies the whole day. Is that really so hard to understand?I know I should be more responsible and not agree to the plans in the first place. Still, I genuinely want to see you, and I think I'll feel good on Saturday; it just happens that sometimes you have an unexpectedly rough week. Then, Saturday comes along, and you wanna hide under the covers and ignore all your calls.I've tried being honest with friends about this and saying things along the lines of: Look, I'm agreeing now, but a lot of times when the day comes, I don't feel like it; I'm much better at making plans on the spot; and it has worked with some friends, but most friends simply…

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