[She] said, 'I want to be you'. She corrected herself: "No, I want to be like you”’ Woman rants about a coworker who seems way too interested in her

This employee not only experiences her coworker's attitude as annoying, but also as a threat to the boundaries of her identityThere is a difference between borrowing something from you and claiming a relationship with you that you haven't consented to. If, let's say, a coworker buys the same top as you, that'd be inoffensive imitation; but if she repeatedly reproduced your choices, mannerisms, style, and monitored your every move, that'd constitute a completely different scenario.Envy is not only wanting something another person possesses; sometimes, it also involves some form of resentment toward the person who possesses it. That way, the object of desire becomes entangled with the person who has it. You are not really envious if you don't feel some degree of (repressed or not) aggressiveness toward the person you are envious of.Hedy, in this case, is pictured as a 'single white woman', making it really easy for us to identify the archetypal figure of a woman who feels entitled to everyone's attention, struggles with boundaries, and has that sort of 'desperate' vibe to her. That instantly gives us the ick.People who feel socially inadequate might think the only solution is to imi…

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