Intrusive mother-in-law rearranged granddaughter’s nursery without permission: ‘She's commented on my cooking, my "Instagram parenting," and once told Nora in front of me that "Grandma will teach you how things are really done"’

Mothers-in-law are a trope in fairy tales for a reasonApparently, this is an ancient behavior; mothers-in-law have been getting too involved in their son's relationships for a long time. The only relationships that survive are the ones that manage to keep the mothers-in-law at bay.I'm not kidding; I've seen this play out in my family and outside, when I was a daughter-in-law. I guess mothers can't help it; their daughters-in-law spark some kind of subconscious competition inside of them.I guess it's because they want the best for their children, and they are wired to protect them, so when they see something they don't agree with happening in their son's relationship, they step in. Of course, if they are well-adjusted human beings and mature enough, this shouldn't happen at all. But sadly, it happens very often.We should trust our partners enough to handle this, because that can be the only thing that protects us from their intrusion. It can be difficult because we're talking about a mother-son relationship, and its dynamics can be really hard to change, but as a baby comes, it can push those hierarchies to adapt.If the husband can't do it, somebody else has to; there is a baby to …

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