Mother-in-law organizes baby shower for SIL and invites all her friends: ‘So we’re basically serving as an excuse for her to arrange a party, invite whoever she wants, and having us pay to feed these people’

The typical case of a gift that's not really for youSome people can't see beyond their own noses; even when they're giving you a gift, they're thinking about themselves. They're also impossible to talk to, and no matter how much you point out what's happening, they will not see it, so you might have to call it quits.Obviously, the mother-in-law from this story isn't helping anyone by throwing this baby shower. If she were paying for it herself, it might be justified to bring her friends along, but she is not even doing that. She expects the couple expecting the baby to pay for everything her guests eat, and I wonder: where does celebrating the new-coming baby come in?At any rate, the mother-in-law is only relieving her sons-in-law from the baby showers' organisation, and nothing else. But even though that is a little bit helpful, what's the point of celebrating your baby's arrival with strangers?I think these types of personalities, like the mother-in-law's, should be kept at a safe distance and straight up lied to. I know it might sound problematic, but I think the only way to deal with people like that is to play along, pretend you're super thankful they want to throw your baby …

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