Woman doesn’t know how to tell her 30-year-old friend that the reason she’s single is that she comes on too strong: ‘I'm starting to get sick of hearing about it because the answer is so obvious to everybody but herself’

Let me hold your hand when I say this…Sometimes the only alternative is to tell your friend the truth, even if it hurts them. It's our opinion; it doesn't have to be the most universal fact ever known to men, but if we care for our friend, it's ok to try to say it.When we're going through a hard time, like the woman from this story, we might think we're doing the best we can and other people are to blame for our failings. Precisely because we fail to see our implication in whatever's happening to us, we need an honest friend by our side.We should all destigmatise desperation. Society sends the message that we are running late for love from the minute we turn 27, and then expects us not to be desperate by 30 if we still haven't found the one. It's only natural to feel that, and we should create safe spaces to talk about it so it doesn't take over.It's true that desperation can scare someone away, but the solution isn't to be just as desperate and force ourselves not to show it; a third option is to find a way to not feel desperate at all. That's where good friends come in, and good friends should tell us the hard truth if they think they can help us, because they prioritise our lon…

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