Man dismisses his wife’s feelings as social-media influence: ‘If I ever try to bring up something to him that might be bothering me, he will often question whether I actually feel that way or if I found it on TikTok’

Are we policing what people do with their free time now? Should extremely tired moms make even their free time productive?I'm going to preface this piece by saying I don't agree with either the husband or the commentators in this post. I thought my point of view would be the most obvious, but apparently, it isn't. I can understand why exhausted moms feel so lonely these days. Modern life not only isolates them, and all of us, for that matter- but it also punishes them for looking for a somewhat escapist way to spend their (very little) free time.The usual problem is that much of the housework moms do is invisible. Only their kids know it. A normal job is public; it's backed by a contract, has a schedule, a workweek, and most importantly, it's paid accordingly! A mom's job is viewed only as the natural thing for her to do.This sort of story always amazes me because fathers know very well how tiring it is to care for kids all day. This issue about how people use their free time goes deeper than this, though. People not only judge mothers for how they use it. In my opinion, if we're not finding ways to let go of the mind and truly relax, free time is pointless.Of course, we should fi…

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